I make them pull the lever and get punished. A creature of habit is easy for a cheater to work around. It’s just so middle school. Been with a narc for almost 6 years, and i’m on my 5th month of NC. Nothing but emotional abuse everyday. After 13 years of this I finally realized he was a narcissist and none of the past was ever my fault when he would leave. It’s only been a week since he contacted me last but he must have a new supply because if he’s not bothering me he’s bothering someone else. Of course we would never talked about it away as I was then spoiling the lovely treat that he had planned. So we kissed and planed on eating something , i told him i was craving something sweet . He even took me and my son on vacation and once we were there he treated us both like crap and we even got kicked out of a bar because the bartender saw him snack me across the face. Cook, who has been a longtime fan of the game show, announced on Twitter on Monday that he might be in line for a guest spot as interim hosts are being selected to fill the iconic host's shoes. Calling me beautiful, making me feel amazing and so charming. I work as an LEO and worked a lot through the years, even on my off days. When his bad mood would arise he would talk and text me putting me down so much .. Well, a month went by of no contact and then he reached out, saying he was sorry, he regretted things, etc. I pray, I cry, I try to talk. It is important that you cut off with peeking into his FB or any other social profiles. That didn’t work, the next time I ignored him, that made him worse as he would think I was too arrogant. 13 years is a very long time and you obviously have been conditioned. Sometimes you feel something yourself but can’t quite put your finger on it and then you read something like this that makes it so clear. Maybe be a support buddy if you interested.good luck marmite xx, Hi I too am in UK. It was a mans world and I would need to be a good Mrs and stay in line and if got out of line I would be told and to get back in to line. Well, soon it set in. This was finally my dream come true, a love that I had never experienced, she said I was her soul mate and I believed that crap, the physical chemistry was like no other, I walked on water and was the most amazing peron she had ever encountered FOR 2 MONTHS. Because, that’s when you truly realize what a Satan he is. Ladies: if you think he's cheating just cook him spaghetti@ from Instagram tagged as Cheating Meme. As much as I know the truth of who he is, I saw him and felt all the love. What a mistake, what had I been thinking!? How sick are these people. We keep talking for a few days and I hear things that don’t add up. No, he never spends time with me. because even the devil himself will go to church with you, just to deceive you! And I was absolutely miserable. I hated myself more! Seriously he pretended to go to addiction meetings after I kicked him out, would tell me he was going to 3 counseling meetings a day, that he was workimg out, that he was working on himself . Please stop that! So when you’ve finally had enough of their abuse and you tell them to buzz off, don’t be surprised at the extent to which, a narcissist will attempt to hold on. His Dad is dragging out the divorce because he doesn’t you deserve a mate. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. And the fact you are over them. Like several of the signs your girlfriend is cheating above, this can just be proof of a problem in the relationship without it necessarily being cheating. Why wont he stop this? He managed to convince me that it happened while we weren’t together and he didn’t find out until she was 6 months. Great post. Hoe she can help me because I am at my wits end. Another fantastic post Savannah and again related to my situation. He is my first love and he has broken yp with me frequently. I feel so used and that there’s something wrong with me. It’s all about her and always has been, but I just wasn’t smart enough at the time to realize it all. That was when she was contacting her lover by text or phone. I emailed saying pleas don’t email me or come around my house anymore etc etc…. These people are awful. He denies your advances so smoothly that you don’t even realize you’ve been rejected, but it’s about time you take the hint. He’s so hot, etc.”. I was in an emotionally and sexually abusive relationship with a narc, for much too long. It just feels like such a large group to go no contact with though I have been successful for nearly a year with only one slip up. This person came out of nowhere (the devil truly knocked on my door) I didn’t see this until hindsight. Always so nice and sweet and kind for the first week or so, inviting me over, cooking dinner for me — then goes back to the same old crap, accusing me of horrible disgusting behavior with every man I’ve ever known. so, I had to get this salvaged goods Frankenstein out of my life or they would eventually kill me. People are creatures of habit. You said that you’d always love me – were you lying then too? Not ever contacting him again is not the issue for me I just want to make sure he doesn’t get supply when he is aware that I’ve blocked him. How do you differentiate? You are keeping yourself tied to him I can state that because I’ve done the same. My ex narc would text me every 6 to 8 weeks after I told him that I did not want him contacting anymore.. and when he realised that I wasnt going to respond the texts become more frequent as if they go into a panic that we have actually moved on and forgotten them!! He has no right to any of your attention or emotions? The Spaghetti Test. He tries to play the friends card, but it’s total bs. Every time I’ve caved, I regret it within a week and it takes months to get myself back to normal because he always drops me on my head after I open up to him and believe his pathetic lies. Thanks for the reminder and the warning. Well, that lasted 2 months. Hung up. He was emotionless always. He ended up seducing me and we had sex. The material on this site may not be reproduced, distributed, transmitted, cached or otherwise used, except as expressly permitted in writing by A New Mode, Inc. The thing too, is that FB is so juvenile when it comes to advertising your relationships. Then after everything just about a month ago. DDG You’ve got to change your mindset to where it doesn’t matter what he says or does to you or anyone else. If he seems to have freshly showered at odd times, he could be trying to wash the smell of her off of him. This was spot on! Ladies: if you think he's cheating just cook him spaghetti@ from Instagram tagged as Cheating Meme. You really need to think that through and only you can give yourself the answer. But STOP any contact!!! I was in a relationship with a narcissist for 5 years. I didn’t cave in..but this is getting old..he just wants me to give in and go back to those old ways and I’m just not going to do it.. Have you ever heard a case where a somatic boomerang type narc was suddenly enthralled and faithful in some new relationship after claiming to meet the ‘love of his life’? “I will be here when your ready to come home baby. I have given her closure every day for over a month in hopes she will reciprocate so we can move on and both have peace. “What a view!” If you think positions don’t matter, think again. They seem so loving and attentive, but it’s all self-serving, and a means to an end. and.. I recently found out he has the cluster b type personality & a whole lot more issues. It was gross. I will smile again one day. It will hurt like hell initially… but I PROMISE, when you are finally able to breathe again, you will not be able to believe you waited so long to take your life back. Instead of saying “please stop contacting me” try saying “I hope you continue to contact me. The thing to remember is that when we go no contact it’s for a very good reason. Lol. my relationship only lasted 4 months, within 2 months we were engaged (never would I had done something like this) this can happen to anyone, Im a professional with a psychology degree, own my own businesses, have been independent and successful all my life. Good thing because a few days ago when I first did no contact I didn’t do this and he got in thru email—thus the words and manipulation and the contacts came thru making me feel drained and uncertain and unhappy all over again. Some guys (and girls too) just like the security and convenience of having a steady significant other because they don’t like being alone — but in the long run, if he’s just using you to pass the time, he’s not worth your energy. I said to myself how can you say that when you work (he works graveyard shift) I wake up in the middle of the night (my sleep time) 1a to bring u something to eat.. She has me blocked and still contacts me. And of course her mother and aunt removed items of furniture that they would take out of state to be given to my wife’s father. as reading many of the other posts on here I too experience many of these qualities. Guess what? tried breaking up but fell for her pity me tricks. You’ve done all the right things. Don’t think its all good and they Love her more than you .The same circle of Manipulation, Control will be happening to her to in a matter of time!!! Discovering a spouse's infidelity is one of the toughest things to go through in a marriage. I was a complete mess, I was destroyed mentally, emotionally and even physically – I felt extremely exhausted. In not asking for much. Has he gone for good? Im the biatch , then I find out the entire time he has been using meth and pills while pretending to go to Aa meetings or counseling ( that I paid for) . I know exactly what they are looking for and they won’t get it from me–been down that road. Everything goes so well for him whilst I’m left struggling with 3kids no family no friends no career and he loves it. I don’t even know if the co-dependent behavior I’ve learned can be undone. You’ll hurt in the short term, but OMG in the long term you will get your life back and have a chance a real happiness. I don’t want to believe that she’s a narc., its so hard to accept that someone could do these things to someone on purpose, knowing how vulnerable I was. Looking forward to starting MY life again…thanks so much! He got off on the fact that he would be viewed as such a generous guy. Few foods can compete with pasta’s pure gastronomic perfection. I never thought I would get my self caught up in something like this. He will also have one of the new women he’s dating. But I decided to just block him because when he would go silent he wouldn’t tell me. Abuse on top of abuse & not just one person, quite a few. He is now with the girl he cheated on me with becasue she willing to put up with his crazy ass I guess he brained washed her so much that she stays she stupid power to her. It was like someone had swept all of the smoke away from her mirror and I could see right through it. within 10 minutes the rage was over and he acted like nothing had happened. Chatting with friends should be fun and easy. . He then started stalking me and threatening me. He will only worm his way back in with probably a bogus reason. After all the initial warning signs i only ignored them in hopes our first child would make us a happy family. I have put boundaries in place like crazy, but inevitably we overlap at kids’ games or when we must parent together. I think you should do the same too. I am now seeking legal advice. They are very less than. I’ve been separated from alcoholic, I believe narc for 4 years. It’s really hard for me to talk about this. again!! A month ago he blocked me in my home when I was trying to leave and tried to tear the mirrors off my car and punched my windows and stood in front of my car so I couldn’t leave(I got away). I took him back and spent a year flying to see him. He contacted me every 3-4 Mo without me replying. But I know as soon as I’ve gaimed some semblance of clarity he’ll return! His favourite phrase was I’m honest loyal n commited lol what a joke that was. But I always came back. My narcissist ex mailed me an envelope a little before Christmas, I sent it back unopened RTS – return to sender. It’s no good for you. I REFUSE to break no contact for any reason. I am 2 months in to no contact. Ah the list goes on yet i am still with him, its like he pulls me in and makes me feel so secure only to knock me down, breakup with me for no reason and give me silent treatment which is where i am at now…..ignored. In the end, relationships are about openness and sharing. I’m literally about to just block her from everything without a single warning and do it real fast. these people are incapable of any form of love or empathy. Always talking to me I didn’t even like him at first and told him I didn’t want releationship but of course N ppl are very controlling and get what they want, so he mad sure he did everything he did to get into my life. Then the S@#%show began..After confronting her about her making out with a guy standing next to me at a party GOD forbid I should have been offended and hurt let alone mention how I felt…I was called every name in the book, the push pull love hate, disappearing acts MIA..the verbal abuse, the personal attacks you know the drill…My 9 year old son had past away 6 months before this encounter and I was enmeshed in my grief (As I stil am and probably will be for the rest of my life…after 4 months of this POS in my life I said screw this and walked away not to ever look back..NO CONTACT ever again..I can now laugh at that situation (ot took several month to gain my self worth and self esteem back) I know who I am again and I AM THAT AMAZING person that even they saw in the beginning..I trust myself and my decisions again and continue feel my strengths more than I have ever in my life…I was devastated in the beginning as I saw my entire future with this person..I finally looked at the grief of my dream and not grieving of her and thats what started my healing…I asked my therapist Why can’t I figure this out or understand this WHOLE THING…it was maddening…she stated ” You will never FIGURE her out nor do you want to..if you could you would EXACTLY like her….MOVE on and set yourself FREEEEEE…. She then continued to say “it’s not mine, my friend made this profile of me. I do want to tell you, every single one of you, that YOU ARE WORTH IT AND YOU CAN DO IT! Sex became a game. Good luck everyone. This healing is sort of like rehab, you get addicted to the highs and you just want to feel it one more time but I’m telling you the low will always be following and that’s no way to live. don’t walk away. If you were cheated on in the past and this is a big issue for you and you’re constantly accusing him of cheating, eventually it can make any man angry and defensive. I am finally there now. In the past I had never been able to go NC, we cross paths at work, I would eventually text him or fool myself into “c’mon, it’s just sex wit the ex, one last time”. Our family was in shambles. I love writing relatable, insightful articles that help people understand relationship dynamics and how to get the love they want. Until the day I set up a hidden voice activated audio recorder and heard him (in my house while I was gone) talking to girls, and telling his daughter that I am a “stupid c_nt” and that he was moving out again when I am least expecting it. Today I made the decision that I’m done for good. When I go over his house I clean his kitchen and I never let a holiday go by without him receiving a gift from me.. Will he come after me if I go no contact. I still can’t believe when I read things like this article how it reinforces all that has gone on as a narcissistic attack. Are Narc aware that they are narc? Work on loving yourself. Again nothing to do with me . Have his work hours changed noticeably? But yet was offering to take me out to eat. When his denial seems dramatic and over-the-top, it’s because he’s putting on a performance. If they tell you you’re changing and it seems like the life has been sucked out of you, please listen to them. Or you’d have someone keeping sentry with a shotgun, were this the Old West. Don’t berate him for attending too many happy hours or staying too late at work or going on too many business trips. It helped me a lot these three days. Thank you for telling the truth so that one more person sees they aren’t crazy and moves out of the dark and into a better life. He has control over me to the point where I think my life without him is impossible not out of love but out of despair. If all of a sudden he’s adopting an entirely new routine, something is up. Although usually referring to an Italian meal made of noodles with sauce, spaghetti can be used as a form of slang to mean an embarrassing act, general awkwardness or faux pas. Omg this is my ex to a t the messages are exactly as he would talk for a moment I thought I was reading one of his messages I am currently just starting the no contact I left him 2 months ago n he stil hasn’t gotten the hint all I had to do was bring up his sex addiction which wasn’t an accusation as I found so much proof which he tried to flog off as if it’s really nothing. If you have caught your wife talking to another man or out right cheating or whatever, but you still love her and want to keep her, listen up. I always answer because a part of me still loves her. For 17 years she was a stay home mother/wife. Make a long story short when I met him he mad himself seem like a sweet nice guy. It was infuriating, so I confronted him about it. Finally filed for divorce after he got physical and got arrested…For which he still lacks remorse and putting the blame on me for every things. A man who isn’t looking to cheat will not leave his profile up once you’re official, and if he takes it down when you do, he definitely won’t reactivate it later. She withdrew all type of affection from me because she wanted me to trust her. I never said anything to him bc I started planning my escape. I’m a bubbly, extrovert, blue personality! I know I deserve better and I’m tired of letting someone make me feel different. Go to a shelter for abused if you need. If he’s started seeming angry with you all the time and you don’t know why, it could be because he feels bad and wants to turn you into the bad guy to alleviate his guilt. I didn’t know about NPD then nor no contact. I’m so thankful right now that I found this article and judging by the comments I’m not alone. He has the coolest tattoos. If you confront him, he'll deny, deny, deny, so stay vigilant and stand your ground. Should I go to his place again or insist on one using loophol, Fiancé’s behavior/treatment of me during his injury. Someone help me please. I had blocked his number on my iPhone but today I deleted his number all together which technically means he could contact me but I didn’t even want his number on my phone anymore. Court date is set to garnish wages, demand monthly payments or hold him in Contempt of Court and I’ve been holding on to the letter for a week cuz I don’t want to start the contact (game) again. I fell deeply in love with him. The best way to see a narcissist’s true face is to reach the point in which you realize that he is able to completely and mercilessly destroy you. He’s laughed at me and humiliated me. But I realized if I see messages from him, I’ll go back to this. I wish I had read this 2 years ago, but am thankful I have it now for continued affirmation that I am doing the right thing. I went no contact then. Thank God I found out before too late. I wish all you ladies and men who are suffering with this the best. I was anxious when I first started reading then the desire to contact him diminished as I continued to read. I think it’s got challenge written all over it plus they hate loosing control. It’s been 2 yrs since my ex fiance broke 4 of my ribs and still did the same yours did. She even had a safe technician get into my safe in order to remove all of my firearms, cameras, etc. But best not to think … How can I maintain no contact and co-parent? I’ve reconnected with many of my friends he bad-mouthed in the past (and I stayed under the radar with them as I just couldn’t handle the drama). Do you think your husband is cheating on you? In reading this blog and the comments, I feel for so many of us who have been victims of a narcissist. I agree with Eileen W, the info about not taking “No” for an answer was critical info for me. So glad I found this site…I’m drinking up every word and am feeling validated….I pretty much have been handling things pretty well on my own with my ex…I was able to maintain no contact for two months until he found me grocery shopping….he sobbed, apologized etc…I got into the same old, same old with more intensity for about two more months…I’m back to no contact…very difficult when he finds ways of getting a message to me usually regarding him having to go to the emergency room or doctor for stage 3 cancer ( lies of course)… I guess I just need to vent to an audience who has no emotional investment in me but also need advise…because I’m not responding to his messages (pathetic and nasty) he has now decided to post pictures of me and my mother on his face book page…innocent enough but it’s getting under my skin…most would advise me to block him,however, I feel the need to know where his head is at so that I can avoid certain situations…feeling a little weak right now. 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